I honestly believe this is a VERY private journey and should not be discussed with others (except for anonymous places like this sub). So many people will judge you for it, even people who were once like you and are now married to someone rich (because you would take away their feeling of superiority and that they ‘made it’ or because their group of friends will start disliking that many ‘outsiders’ are joining their ‘group’).
I have a cousin who is very hardworking and has always called me a goldigger because throughout my life I have always befriended people who had way more money than I did (and no, I did not befriended them for their money but because I liked the same things they did/had and bonded over those things and was not a kiss ass).
Like you I am not poor, simply comfortable/okay but not yet rich-rich. And yet my cousin criticizes me for wanting a wealthy partner all the while complaining about her life/work and how she wants to be a SAHM/kept wife/partner. I mean the hypocrisy is HUGE. Truly, this dislike the rich people really stems from the very fact that some people are incapable of going for those things themselves or being scared of what other people will say.
Well, let me tell you something rich-rich people didn’t get rich by being correct, some are very bold and many times not in the most socially correct ways in both work and life when it comes to getting what they want. They will lie like they’re saying the truth, find their way into a party they weren’t invited to, and some will even act in the most snobbish/rude way to others and the help to establish their superiority. Truly rich people are nice, sometimes aloof, and DGAF about what others think because money has freed them from societal expectations of how they’re supposed to dress/act/be.
So have NO shame whatsoever for wanting to marry rich. Anyone who looks at you from this holier than you pov is a hypocrite simply because they’re incapable of admitting to themselves how much they want that because they’re ashamed of the journey, of being snubbed by those with more than them, because they’re concerned about what their family/friends will say, of making the effort, and so they resort to criticizing those who do admit to themselves that is what they want. Granted some people are in a really tight financial position, but if you take care of yourself, present yourself in a manner that says ‘I care about myself’, and hang out at the right places you’ll inevitably find someone. No joke, I have heard through friends stories of divorced mothers+50yo at their workplaces who end up marrying wealthy partners (as in they now have +5 luxury cars, a chopper, and +2 mansion type homes in HCOL cities). I have also followed IG followers who lead very luxurious lives (not tacky rich) and have been very open about how they met their partners, one was even a party city bottle girl w/o a college degree and is now a beautiful, nice (met her actually btw), and very rich mommy.
Long post but basically be chatty, be friendly, look put together ALWAYS, hang out in nice places, look/be nice (you never know who’s around you) and you should find someone. Where? Well, that is your homework and sometimes it takes trial and error and a bit of clumsy embarrassment. But be kind to yourself and be graceful about your mistakes and people will dismiss any silly mistakes regardless if you’re in your 20s, 40s, 60s+. Really.